Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Man Seeking Caveats

The forums and message boards on the dating sites are home to many discussions about profiles calling for casual hookups. In general, women state their opposition, and men state something very much like this, taken from an actual profile:

***first off, its says I'm looking for casual sex. This is an OPTION.
Actually, this is a fantasy. Look, in my experience, any date can turn into a one night stand and any not-quite-right budding relationship can be negotiated into a friends with benefits situation, at least in the short term. There's no reason to advertise for it, and I suspect that in general it does act as girl repellent to do so.
If you are also looking for casual sex, and you or I aren't seeing anyone, I'm down.
Wow, a guy who's down for casual sex. What a rarity.
But I won't initiate it or even bring it up.
Because he's already been told to back off by women who find his approach utterly redundant.
If you want something, come get it.
How about a less verbal guy?
If not, then I'll treat you like a friend or maybe something more.
He's really struggling here, isn't he?
If you think that's perverted or don't get it, that' ok too.
What are the odds that he'd meet a woman who doesn't know that men are often open to casual sex? And if he did, what are the odds that he'd have any idea how to create a relationship with her?

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